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5 secrets for braver boundary setting


Family, friends, partners, coworkers—every relationship in your life could benefit from healthy boundaries around your time, energy, feelings, and physical self.

But setting boundaries often means having tough conversations with loved ones, so these limits and rules tend to go unspoken. When it comes to setting boundaries with someone you don’t know well, the discomfort factor can be even higher. So instead of saying out loud what you need, you’re likely to either bury your boundaries or just hope the other person thinks to ask about them.

Hailey Magee wants to help you break this pattern. Her coaching work focuses on helping people of all ages set empowered boundaries in their most important relationships.

In her series of five secrets for braver boundary setting, Hailey offers simple scripts for talking about your boundaries. Whether you want to clear the air with a friend in the moment or with a family member years after the fact, these guidelines will help you start the conversation.

With Hailey’s tips, you’ll learn to:

  1. State the mutual benefit.
  2. Forget fearlessness.
  3. Understand that sometimes, silence is the way.
  4. Realize that it’s never too late.
  5. Have a plan in place for discomfort.

Want to keep these tips nearby so you can keep setting empowered boundaries? Download a PDF of Hailey Magee’s 5 Secrets for Braver Boundary Setting.

If you’re looking for a mental health professional to support you in defining and communicating your boundaries, browse our directory to find a therapist who can help.

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