How to find a therapist
Reviewed by Susan Radzilowski
Written bytherapist.com team
Last updated: 11/08/2022
Finding a good therapist is a big step toward better mental health. It’s important to find someone you trust who has the skills and experience to address your specific needs.
Convenience is also important to consider. Therapy is a commitment, and anything you can do to make that commitment easier to keep is worth doing. It may be helpful to consider scheduling and location, since those factors can influence your ability to commit to therapy over time.
Do I need therapy?
There’s no litmus test to prove that you “need” therapy. You can seek professional treatment at any time for any reason. If you have questions or concerns about your mental health, a therapist can help.
What kind of therapist do I need?
When you’re just starting out, it can be hard to know what kind of therapist you’ll work best with. Here are some general tips to help you narrow down your choices:
- Know why you’re going: It can help to have at least a general idea of what sort of mental health issues you’re dealing with. You don’t need a professional diagnosis. Instead, make a list of what you’re struggling with and what you hope to get out of therapy. This can help you and your therapist decide what sort of treatment you need and whether the therapist you’re meeting with is best equipped to provide it.
- Reflect on your current learning style: Understanding your learning style can help you decide what type of therapy to try. For example, if you weren’t a fan of homework when you were a student, you may want to choose a therapist who doesn’t assign homework outside of sessions.
- Prioritize trust: There’s no surefire way to choose the “right” kind of therapist. What’s most important is that you trust them to help you. Instead of trying to find the perfect match for your background and needs, make it your top priority to find someone you feel safe with.
Is therapy confidential?
In general, yes. With only a few specific exceptions, your therapist isn’t supposed to share what you say in therapy. They can, however, disclose information you’ve shared if:
- You’re a danger to yourself (meaning you have a specific plan to commit suicide, not just suicidal thoughts) or a danger to others.
- You share something your therapist is required to report (like the ongoing abuse of a child, elder, disabled person, or dependent).
- Insurance company audits may require the therapist to release limited information about your care.
- A therapist may have to report threats made to someone else in order to safeguard the other person from possible harm.
- A court order or subpoena legally requires your therapist to share information about your case.
How long will I be in therapy?
A typical session lasts one hour and happens weekly. The number of sessions you’ll need is unique to you and your therapist. Your length of treatment will depend on:
- The mental health problems you’re facing
- The type of therapy you’re receiving
- The progress you’re making
- Your therapist’s opinion
- Your opinion
- Any limits set by your insurance coverage or EAP (employee assistance program)
How to get started
A great first step is to see your primary care doctor and ask for a referral for a therapist. Your doctor can also conduct tests to make sure your symptoms don’t come from a different medical issue, like hypothyroidism (a hormonal condition that can cause fatigue, weight gain, and depression, among other concerns).
If you don’t feel comfortable seeing a doctor, try asking friends or family for recommendations. But remember that everyone has different mental health needs—a friend’s therapist may be a good fit for them, but not for you.
You can also search our online directory for a therapist who specializes in your mental health concerns.
What to look for in a therapist
Your therapist should have the education and qualifications to provide professional treatment. Common titles and credentials include:
- Psychologist: Doctoral degree or master’s degree in psychology
- Psychiatrist: Medical degree in psychiatry (can prescribe medication)
- LMFT: Licensed marriage and family therapist
- LCSW: Licensed clinical social worker
- LPC: Licensed professional counselor
Your therapist may have a different degree or title than the ones above, but most qualified therapists have at least a master’s degree in counseling, psychology, or a related field.
Keep in mind that certain titles—like “therapist,” “counselor,” or “coach”—are generic terms that aren’t legally regulated. You’ll want to look beyond these terms to learn what education and training a therapist has received.
It’s also important to make sure your therapist is licensed in your state and in good standing with your state’s licensing board. This information is available online.
2. Methods of treatment
Different therapists rely on different types of treatment for their clients. Many therapists are trained in more than one method. Common types of therapy include:
- Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT)
- Art therapy
- Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT)
- Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR)
- Emotional freedom technique (EFT)
- Internal Family Systems (IFS)
- Interpersonal psychotherapy (IPT)
- Psychodynamic therapy
- Somatic therapy
Therapists usually list their specialties on their websites or in online directories. Common ones include:
It can be helpful to choose a counselor whose clients have some similarities with you. You can check a therapist’s client focus to see whether they work with individuals, couples, groups, adults, children, or teenagers.
4. Payment options
Cost can be a huge barrier to accessing professional mental health treatment. Here are some tips for finding more affordable therapy:
- Check with your insurance provider: If you have insurance, your insurer may have a directory of in-network therapists on their website. Check to see if your policy covers mental health services (and if so, how much it covers).
- Calculate your budget: Figure out what you can afford to spend on weekly sessions. If you find a therapist you like but can’t afford, consider seeing them less frequently, such as every other week.
- Ask about reduced rates: Some therapists offer reduced rates for lower-income clients. Ask your therapist if they offer discounts, a sliding scale, or payment plans.
5. Online vs. in-person treatment
Many therapists offer both in-person and online therapy sessions. Each option has its pros and cons. Think about them before deciding which one you prefer.
- Pros: It’s convenient and safe. You won’t have to spend time and energy getting to your therapist’s office, and you can work with a counselor who doesn’t live near you.
- Cons: For online sessions, you’ll need a computer, tablet, or mobile device, as well as some basic technological skills. Internet connection problems may interrupt your sessions. It may be hard to find a private spot at home for therapy, and it may feel harder to trust a therapist you’ve only met virtually.
- Pros: It can be easier to build a strong relationship with a counselor in person. It’s a private environment, your therapist can see your body language, and you don’t need to worry about technological problems.
- Cons: Seeing a therapist in person requires reliable transportation and extra transit time. You’ll only be able to see providers within driving distance, and your sessions may be canceled by bad weather.
The most important question to ask when looking for a therapist is, “Do I trust this person to help me?”
We build trust with other people over time. It can be hard to decide if someone is trustworthy based on a first impression.
You may not feel comfortable sharing your deepest secrets during your first session. But it’s important to choose a provider you feel safe with—someone you may trust with more sensitive topics as you get to know them better.
Be honest about your preferences
Our biases and preferences play a role in whether or not we choose to trust someone. It’s okay to be honest with yourself about your own.
For example, if you were harmed by a male authority figure, you may not feel comfortable seeing a male therapist. If you’re struggling with the everyday trauma of discrimination because of your race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, or gender identity, you may feel more comfortable seeing a counselor who can relate directly to your experiences.
Find help in unexpected places
However, keep in mind that you don’t have to find a therapist who matches your background, experiences, or identity perfectly.
You may find that a provider with completely different life experiences can offer a refreshing perspective. You may feel more freedom to be open about your struggles with someone who doesn’t have the same context as you.
Remember, what’s most important is that you find someone you trust. It’s okay to be honest about any preferences you may have, but it’s also good to acknowledge that they’re just preferences.
Find a therapist now
If you’re ready to start your journey to better mental health, browse our therapist directory to find a provider who’s the right fit for you.
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