Shelby Milhoan, LCPC

I am a psychotherapist specializing in helping individuals who are having difficulty with regulating emotions and are having a tough time in their relationships. Most of the clients I work with a have a history of familial trauma, relationship trauma, or are having difficulty navigating America's ever-changing landscape and are coping by using substance, sex, spending, etc.

Perhaps you were told that you were “too dramatic,” needed to toughen up, or that if you do all the “right” things and not complain, not cry, not be combative, you will have a good life. Or maybe it was suggested that you had to (fill in the blank) to be loved. How did that work out for you?

If you are asking yourself “Why is this happening to me?” or “If I just would have done x,y,z, my life would be so much better” or “I don’t deserve a good life. I’ve done terrible things” or “It shouldn’t be like this!” then let’s work together.

My main goal in my practice is to help folks who may have been sold a false narrative find their own path to peace and to have those healthy relationships they desire. I work with individuals who

Come from a family/community that tells them that what they are doing is not enough, that they are always “wrong,” or that they are doing something “bad.”

Feel as if they are constantly taking care of others to the detriment of themselves

Chose a different path from their family/community and are seen as the “black sheep”

Are recognizing that their relationship with their significant other may not be healthy or is “toxic.”

Are realizing that the job/career they have is burning them out and that they need to make changes

Have realized that their emotions, thoughts, and/or behaviors are getting in the way of them having lasting relationships with others.

If any of this resonates with you, I say let’s chat!

I know it can be really difficult for us to make changes, especially if we are dealt a shitty hand. That’s why I utilize DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) to encourage clients to learn specific skills that will help with regulating their emotions, getting through highly stressful times, asserting themselves, and cultivating peace in the present.