Rebecca Gilmour, BACP Therapist - Registered Member MBACP #410868

Hello,

I'm Rebecca, a qualified pluralistic counsellor, providing therapy through the BetterHelp platform using phone, live chat and video.

My approach to therapy is based on the belief that therapy works best when we take the time to understand you as an individual, rather than trying to fit your experiences into a particular model. Every person who comes to counselling brings their own experiences, strengths and challenges, so we'll work together to find what feels most helpful for you.

I also don't believe I have all the answers. Therapy isn't about me being the expert on your life. I believe that, deep down, you already hold a lot of the answers, even if they don't feel accessible right now. My role is to bring my knowledge and experience alongside your own, helping you explore what's going on, make sense of it, and discover what works for you.

Something I often hear from clients is that therapy has helped them "join the dots." Together, we begin to notice patterns, connect experiences that hadn't seemed linked before, and understand thoughts, feelings or behaviours in a different way. Quite often, that understanding brings something else with it: acceptance. Parts of ourselves that we've judged, fought against, or even learned to dislike can begin to make sense when we see them in the context of our lives.

That idea of acceptance has always felt important to me. Carl Rogers wrote, "The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change." It's a simple idea, but one that I've seen reflected in therapy time and time again. I don't think change comes from criticising ourselves into becoming someone different. I think it grows from understanding ourselves with enough honesty and compassion that change becomes possible.

The relationship we build together is a big part of that. Mick Cooper's work on pluralism has had a real influence on the way I practise, particularly the idea that therapy works best when it feels collaborative. We'll keep checking in about what's helping, what's not, and what feels important to you, because I don't see therapy as something that's done to you. It's something we create together.

Whether you've been thinking about therapy for a long time or you've only recently started considering it, you're welcome. You don't need to arrive with everything figured out, and you don't need to fit into a particular category or have a specific reason for coming. We can simply begin with where you are.