Lance Kair, LPC

I practice therapy through the YAM (You Are Mattering) Approach, an integrative clinical framework that works directly with a client’s lived experience while drawing from established modalities including ACT, IFS, somatic, and cognitive-emotional approaches.

Through philosophy, science, and spirituality, we will work together for you.

Heal. Grow. Know.

Therapy, for me, is a way of working directly with your life as it is happening—not just talking about it from a distance.
People usually come in because something isn’t working.
You might feel overwhelmed, stuck, reactive, or just worn down. You may understand what’s happening to some extent, but it doesn’t seem to change. Patterns repeat. Reactions come faster than you expect. Your mind keeps going. Your body doesn’t fully settle.
We start there.
I’m interested in what it is actually like for you—how you think, how you feel, how your body responds, and how you move through your life and relationships. Not in a general sense, but in a real, specific way.
What it’s like to work with me
Clients often describe therapy with me as somewhere between talking with a thoughtful, grounded person and working with someone who is actively helping them understand what’s happening in real time. I’m empathetic, while being direct, attentive, and engaged.
I ask questions. I follow what you’re saying. I pay attention to how things shift as we talk. If something stands out—something in your words, your tone, your reactions—I’ll bring it into the conversation. We move at a pace that makes sense for you, while still staying connected to what matters.
How I approach therapy
I use an integrative approach called the YAM approach to therapy. It is the You Are Mattering approach. It draws from:
- Somatic (body-based) therapy
- Internal Family Systems (IFS) / parts work
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Cognitive and emotional approaches
- Depth counseling
Each of these methods has its own way of understanding problems and supporting change, and all of them are valid. But we don’t use them as ridged protocols, rather, they are ways of engaging what is happening for you.
At its core, the YAM holds that you are already actively engaged in your life. Your anxiety, depression, ADHAD or what have you, your reactions, your patterns. We address what feels off, what’s difficult, and what you want to change. But instead of trying to force solutions onto those problems, we work with them as they show up, so that the change is grounded in what’s actually happening.

At times, we may focus more on thoughts—how you’re making sense of things.
At other times, we may work more directly with emotions, or with patterns that show up as different “parts” of you.
Often, your body is involved at the same time—holding tension, reacting, or shifting as we stay with something.
What we focus on is guided by what is actually happening in your experience.

The YAM Approach (You Are Mattering)
My work is grounded in what I call the YAM Approach. At its core, it holds that you are already actively engaged in your life. Your anxiety, depression, ADHAD or what have you, your reactions, your patterns. We address what feels off, what’s difficult, and what you want to change. But instead of trying to force solutions onto those problems, we work with them as they show up, so that the change is grounded in what’s actually happening.

What we might work on
I work with adults who are thoughtful, capable, and often holding a lot together—but are feeling the strain of it.
Common areas include:
- anxiety that shows up in the body or as constant mental activity
- burnout and stress that doesn’t go away with rest
- relationship conflict or disconnection
- patterns rooted in earlier experiences or trauma
- ADHD or feeling scattered, overwhelmed, or inconsistent
- a general sense of being “on” all the time
Many clients look good on the outside, but feel stuck, reactive, or exhausted internally.

What therapy is for
Therapy isn’t about becoming someone completely different.
It’s about understanding how you are already engaging your life—and shifting that in a way that works better for you.
That might mean:
• having more space between what you feel and how you respond
• feeling less driven by patterns you don’t fully understand
• being more present in your relationships
• having a clearer sense of direction
Over time, things begin to feel more workable, more stable, and more your own.

Practical details
I offer therapy in:
• Longmont, Colorado (in-person)
• Online across Colorado
If you’re considering starting therapy, you don’t need to have everything figured out.
You just need a place to begin.

Next step
If what you’ve read here resonates, feel free to reach out.
We can schedule a consultation and see if working together feels like a good fit.

Let's get into it!