Anne Totero, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Anne Totero, LMFT

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Psychotherapist | AAMFT Approved Supervisor | Consultant

Quick Review:

Ages: 14-30 is my expertise yet open to 14+
Experience: Perfectionism and Inner Critic Work, Teens, Young Adults, Relational (Couples, Family) Therapy, Adult ADHD, Depression, Anxiety, Life Transitions, Failure to Launch
Types: Individual, Relational, Group
Modalities: Systems Theory and Therapy, Solution-Focused, CBT, DBT, ACT, IFS, Experiential Therapy, Structural Therapy

Further Review and/or More Information:

Finding people who can walk with you as you work through the human condition is truly essential to mental health recovery, stress management, and finding a flow in a good quality of life.

You know yourself well. No therapist should come in and note they have the quick-fix. We don't. As a therapist I never have claimed to have everything together; I do claim that I am good at remaining fluid and flexible in times of chaos and seeing hope in the darkest of days. I find connecting to my clients and their loved ones on a human level shows results.

I run therapy as I am a part of your medical team. No, not meant to be stuffy! It is meant to be real. I am someone where I believe the bulk of the work is in those initial 8-10 sessions. Research shows us this when you have motivation and engagement in those sessions, both therapist and client show up (i.e., not just physically but mentally!), we see the biggest improvement in symptoms. This time is often enough to take information and move off into the world to try some of those skills. I want you to go out and live your life. I am a support while you do that. Yet, like a PCP in a similar fashion, you can come back for touch-ups, check-in's or reminders. Seeing me as a part of a care team for the long haul so you don't have to keep retelling your story. Yet, I do not promote dependency or romanticization of mental health services. I believe in destigmization, helping when it is needed, and trusting when it is time to go practice without being monitored every week or biweekly. I have a passion for starting discharge at intake because people have to know there is a tangible time of improvement and relief. If you read this and you're thinking, "GETTING RID OF ME ALREADY?" as a joke? We are probably a good fit. If you feel seriously about that statement, it may not be time or may not be a good time to work with me specifically. Being motivated for treatement (i.e., "I want to get better.") – it is DIFFERENT than being treatment READY (i.e., "I am going to do what it takes to get better."). I'll say it again. Motivation to get better is NOT the same as being ready to take steps to get better. If you are ready, I am right alongside you.

I am here to back-up with you already know, build confidence in what you are starting to know, and help you find tools to propel you into the unknowing with curiosity.

I find a few things essential to mental health recovery:
1. Connection and/or a good fit
2. Collaboration
3. Mutual Impact.
NOTE: Honorable mention is humor as a coping skill rather than a defense mechanism.

My passion in my work as a therapist, a clinical educator, a consultant, and in all roles of my life: learning to engage in the human experience. That doesn't mean take emotions away or feel great about them 24/7. I want to help educate my clients and those around me how to let go of emotional restraints a bit. Build flexibility and curiosity. Laugh stuff off once and awhile.

My personality: You'll know very quickly if I am a good fit or not! I have a personality since I was young where it's bold and bright, straight forward and kind. I will be considerate of your emotions, needs, time; and? I expect the same. Therapy is a parallel process as whatever people do IN therapy, they are more likely to do outside of therapy. One key promise is I will only work as hard as you do and I will never work harder. You read that correctly! Mostly because? It isn't helpful to enable people. I want to help you while walking with, not doing things for you.

Few things:

1. Be ready to work.
2. Be ready to feel better.
3. Emotions are a part of it.
4. I am committed to your recovery.

Reach out, let's set up a phone call to consult and see if I am a good fit.

NOTE: I currently do work in academic healthcare settings at UW Health in Madison, Wisconsin and I do teach as a Core Faculty Member in the Edgewood College's Marriage and Family THerapy Program in Madison, Wisconsin. These services are connected to my private practice under Anne C. Totero, LLC doing business as Totero Psychotherapy and Consulting. Please keep this in mind as you are searching the internet and seeing where to get in touch.

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Specialties & Clinical Interests

  • ADHD
  • Adult Adhd
  • Anxiety
  • Career
  • Depression
  • Divorce & Separation
  • Failure To Launch
  • Family Conflict
  • Grief & Loss
  • Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs)
  • LGBTQIA+
  • Mental Health Professionals
  • Parenting & Parent-Child Relationships
  • Perfectionism
  • Pet Loss
  • Pre-Marital & Marital Issues
  • Relationships
  • Self-Esteem
  • Spirituality
  • Stress/Stress Management
  • Suicide Loss
  • Women's Issues

Therapy Types

  • Acceptance And Commitment Therapy (ACT)
  • Client-Centered Therapy
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
  • Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
  • Internal Family Systems (IFS)
  • Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT)
  • Systems Theory And Therapy

Community Specialties

  • Lgbtqia+

Faith Based Specialties

  • Open Spirituality

Fees & Insurance

Cost per Session
$150.00 - $200.00
Sliding Scale
No
Pay By
Zelle, Paypal, Venmo

Licenses & Certifications

Years in Practice
6
License(s)
License #
state
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
1054-124
Wisconsin
Board Certification(s)
Board-Certified Telehealth Professional I
Professional Certification(s)
Organization
Date
AAMFT Approved Supervisor
American Association For Marriage & Family Therapy (AAMFT)
2021
Professional Association(s)
Membership Type
American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy
Clinical Fellow
Graduate School(s)
Degree
Year Graduated
Edgewood College
Master of Science in Marriage and Family Therapy
2012